Comments on: What is loss?

By: Chris Buddle

Chris Buddle — Sat, 18 May 2013 15:15:51 +0000

Thanks Wayne – good point. I agree with you – nothing lasts – it is all fleeting. Hence the need, as much as possible, to live in the moment. (not as easy as it sounds!!).

By: Chris Buddle

Chris Buddle — Sat, 18 May 2013 15:14:43 +0000

Thanks Simon – a very touching comment (and that you shared it is very special). Yes, the ‘might have beens’ is unimaginably difficult to come to terms with.

By: Wayne

Wayne — Sat, 18 May 2013 13:41:00 +0000

It may be pessimistic or realistic, but I often tell myself “nothing lasts”. It applies to the good, the bad and the ugly, from the smallest things to the biggest. The reminder that “nothing lasts” helps me to keep life in perspective. Enjoy the good when it happens, for however long it happens, and endure the bad for however long it lingers.

By: sleather2012

sleather2012 — Sat, 18 May 2013 13:20:51 +0000

A very understanding post. Our eldest son died totally unexpectedly in his sleep three days before Christmas 2011. As you point out ” they don’t forget, they don’t get over grief, they don’t get over the loss, but they do carry on” Describes it exactly. We were in some ways lucky. Sam was married, had done lots of travelling, had lots of different jobs and was enjoying life as a successful molecular biologist at the Sanger Institute, with more Nature papers than me (not hard I must admit). So we had lots of memories and we and his many friends, celebrated his life at a fanatstic humanist funeral. Lots of small things continue to bring him to mind and I well up every time I hear Tom Paxton’s Ramblin’ Boy. Last year two friends of mine lost their only child in a tragic holiday accident – he was only 10 years old. So few memories for them to have and so many ‘might have beens’ for them to mourn.